Well, let's have some real talk.

You offer here a very hostile reading of the lives of polygamous people—which is, of course, most people in the world throughout human history.

So I'll do a hostile reading of you, okay?

Your marriage died a long time ago and you thought you could coerce your husband to stay.

You layered on the shame and blame. You used your Christianity at every step of the way.

There was no effort or social structures to have you get along with your husband's other wife. It was not polygamous. It was secrets, shaming, and blaming. And you're now climbing on a pedestal to flatter yourself.