It sounds like your level of consciousness took a big leap forward with your divorce. I keep thinking divorce is a key godly practice because people I know keep improving as a result.

"Peter" naturally moves to shame and herd you, telling you to get back into the family pecking order. The same strategy was used on Jesus.

I like your line: "Never be afraid to speak out against abuse." It's been my feeling that this is what marks someone as a biblical, godly human. As with Moses, whose story began with interrupting a scene of beating, the key realization is that abuse isn't okay.

But what I'm not sure about in your post is the concept of 'spiritual masturbation'. I don't wish to shame masturbation, for many it's all the love they get. What a lot of religious people seem to lack is love at all. That might start with assessing a situation accurately.