I'm struck by the patterns. Straight people are thinking about getting married in their 20s—not dithering with some girl half his age when he's pushing 40.

I'm looking over a newly available memoir by DB's sister, wondering if it could be read as a queer portrait.

"Yet he was the only one among my brothers with whom I actually played – and how wonderfully we played! Of course, he naturally took the lead; but he did not let me know it and I never felt dominated."

"Besides, he was often bothered and teased."

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0040573620916732