I have some information for you.
As the scholar Philip Payne notes in Man and Woman, One in Christ:
"Unfortunately, practically all English versions of 1 Tim 3:1-13 and Titus 1:5-9 give the false impression that Paul uses masculine pronouns, implying that these church leaders must be male. In Greek, however, there is not even one masculine pronoun or 'men only' requirement…"
So it looks like you heard your gender flattered, thought that sounded good, so never looked up facts about it.
You were an easy mark.