I have accurately reported the contents of the 1995 book "Women and Jewish Law" by Rachel Biale. Your disrespect of that source and scholar is noted.

I'll paste here the key passage I was referencing.

"We have seen that in biblical law a married man who has sexual relations with an unmarried woman is not guilty of any offense since he could theoretically marry the woman. The Talmudic prohibition of private, intimate contact with a woman other than one’s wife (yihud) and the medieval ban on polygyny considerably restricted this freedom for men. Still, a man who had such extramarital sex, if he did not try to marry the woman, had not committed a sexual transgression. He was certainly condemned, and perhaps even flogged in some communities but his offense remained of much lesser magnitude than a sexual transgression."