Hey sorry for the delay in reply. You raise a number of issues that can get involved.
For the question of Mary giving consent for the impregnation see Michael Pope’s paper “Gabriel’s Entrance and Biblical Violence in Luke’s Annunciation Narrative.” This is an important point because it reverses the sexual ‘taking’ that happens since Genesis 6.
For the “women who serve at the entrance” of the Tabernacle, see “Mirrors, Drums and Trees” by Susan Ackerman.
I’m unclear how you void God’s gender and embodiment, as there are profuse references to each. Perhaps you might check out Andrew S. Malone’s “The Invisibility of God: a Survey of a Misunderstood Phenomenon.”